What are you really feeling - Your guide to anticipation
If Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year, then January can be the strangest. On the one hand, we all feel a little glum because Christmas is over, we’ve got no money, a few extra pounds and a whole lot of work to do. On the other, there’s a running theme that we need to kick start the year in full force by starting new hobbies, being healthy, meeting friends, going out and being positive. But all of that is what happens during a ‘normal year’. How do you kick start 2021 in the midst of a global pandemic and how do you anticipate the best for your future? Bach™ Original Flower Remedies has a few tips to help you better grasp your emotions and deal with anticipation throughout the year.
Regulating your emotions:
We all try to regulate our emotions on a day to day basis – when we’re sad, we might watch a cheesy movie to cheer ourselves up, when we’re angry, we might take a moment to breathe or go for a walk to calm down, when we’re happy and excited we try to enjoy the moment and laugh – but it’s not always so easy. Sometimes our feelings can get confused and it can be difficult to deal with more challenging situations. So how can we learn to balance our emotions intuitively? The first step is to be able to pin-point exactly what you are feeling and how it is affecting you in the moment.
Wheel of emotions:
According to research, humans can experience around 34,000 emotions. With so many emotions, how can we possibly begin to understand how we are feeling and know how to deal with those feelings? An American psychologist, Dr Robert Plutchik simplifies these emotions into eight primary emotions which are the basis for other emotions: joy, sadness, acceptance, disgust, fear, anger, surprise and anticipation. By using Plutchik’s emotional wheel, you might find identifying your mixed emotions a little easier, which will in turn help you in regulating and balancing them. Here is a link to an interactive version of Plutchik’s emotional wheel. Take a moment to look at the wheel and see how different emotions interact with each other. Can you think of any moments in your life where you’ve felt a wheel of emotions? How are you feeling right now and how is that feeling playing into other associated emotions?
The meaning of anticipation:
Anticipation is one of the primary emotions in the emotional wheel, and it can both be a good and a bad thing. Getting to grips with your different emotional states can help you understand what effect anticipation is having on your mind and body. When looking at the emotional wheel, you can see how anticipation sits in between joy and anger and can extend either into interest or vigilance. This in turn can lead to feeling more optimistic about situations or can lead to aggression if it veers towards annoyance and frustration. Whenever you’re feeling anticipation, take a moment to think about where you are in the wheel. Is this anticipation excitement, or is it worry?
Emotional decision making:
When we lose control of our emotions, making decisions can become more difficult. When making important decisions in your life, you might have heard people ask you if you are thinking with your heart or with your head. Though we might know, rationally, what the best decision for us would be, it is human nature to want to follow our hearts instead. And that’s not a bad thing! Feeling emotion and using it to guide you in life can lead to higher feelings of fulfilment, however it is can also be a bit of a gamble sometimes. Learning how to make the distinction between emotional and rational decision making might help you deal with anticipation, as you’ll have a clearer view of what you want.
One of the main things that can cause a feeling of anticipation is our expectation about how things will turn out, our fear of disappointment – will things go well, will we achieve success, or will things go wrong? But this feeling can be made even worse if we don’t know what we’re expecting.
To better grasp what you might go through in 2021, try to make a list of goals or aspirations – things you’d like to achieve – but avoid treating them like big resolutions. The main rules here are to be specific and to be realistic. It’s easy to say ‘I want to be healthier this year’, but how can you really implement changes in your life to make that happen? Start on the smaller scale, think of all of the little things you can do to help reach that goal and write them down.
Though we know we won’t be able to do everything in 2021 that we missed out on in 2020, try not to let those things you can’t do bring you down. Instead, focus on what you can do. If you aren’t able to go away on holiday this Spring, what can you do with your time instead? Could you book a glamping trip nearby? Could you use the money you would have spent on a holiday to enrol in a new class? Believing in yourself and planning will help you be more optimistic, manage your expectations for the year and reduce the negative effects that can be caused by anticipation.